In the news, the children of seriously ill parents... "do you hate me? "in order to avoid possible discord in what parents do not tell

Sometimes dolls are used to explain parents' treatment.

The special is so paralyzed.

Case 1: "my child cannot accept it!" "A picture drawn by my worried daughter

St. Luke International Hospital, located in the central district of Tokyo, has a "children's medical support room" composed of pediatricians, clinical psychologists, child life experts (hereinafter referred to as CLS) and caregivers. Here, their children's experts form a team to care for hospitalized and hospitalized children and their siblings, as well as psychological care for children whose parents have serious diseases such as cancer (child support). In team counseling, the most common content is "is it better to tell the child about the illness or not to tell the child?" Mr. A, who discovered breast cancer in his 30s, was also worried about it. An is worried that her daughter in the fifth grade of primary school "is too sensitive because of a little thing will become uneasy and hurt," he insisted. "never let my daughter know about my illness." However, Miura, a member of the Child support team and a child life expert (hereinafter referred to as CLS) who helps children cope with stress when they are in hospital or when their families are sick, said: "Silence is because For parents and children, in many cases, it will increase unease. " "if it is a disease that can be solved only by going to the hospital, it can be masked to go to the hospital a little bit, but in the case of serious diseases such as breast cancer, hospitalization, surgery and continuous treatment are needed. If the situation of not telling the truth to their children continues, parents will feel guilty about concealing the truth, and the hardship of being one will increase. Children may also feel uneasy about "feeling something hidden". In fact, a lot of kids are aware of it. If parents are psychologically prepared to tell their children as soon as possible, it will reassure both sides. (Miura) I also solemnly conveyed this point to Mr. A, determined to convey the illness to my daughter. However, because he "did not have the confidence to explain it from his own mouth", the surgeon in charge of Mr. A's operation communicated it to Mr. A, his wife and daughter in the form of instructions for the operation. Later, Mr. A was successfully discharged from the hospital and returned to normal life, which happened when her daughter went to class to visit. The content of the course is that the children drew a "family painting" and published it in front of everyone. Mr. A's daughter drew a "hand". "A teacher and mother got breast cancer and treated her mother. It is said that this hand is not only the teacher's hand, but also the cured mother's hand, and he also wants to be a doctor with such a hand. "the daughter, who thought she was too sensitive to accept her parents' illness, accepted it well and even discovered her dream for the future. The mother was more surprised than anyone else." (pediatrician Miyazawa Ozawa and doctor of the "Child support" team) parents communicate the disease Mr. Ozawa pointed out that although worry will make children feel uneasy, it is not there that children will feel uneasy. "the most disturbing thing for children is that the important thing for the family is to be covered up or fooled by themselves and put out of the mosquito net without knowing what happened. The greatest advantage of conveying the disease is that the whole family who puts the children together shares the important facts of their parents, and the child can also enter the nursing circle as one of the supporters. "(Dr. Ozawa)

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